It was the 90's so do not judge my hair or my glasses too harshly. Awwwww. Damn we were so happy, newly engaged, ready to take on the world.
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Saturday, August 13, 2016
Time did go by too fast
For all you Moms out there,
When you spend 18 years raising your child, caring, protecting, teaching that child and everyone tells you (as they are a lot smarter and wiser than you) that times goes by way too fast and enjoy the tantrums, the arguments, the potty training, the school years, the homework and the list goes on because you will blink, and it will all be over. Well, you know what, it does happen that way. In what seems like a blink of the eye, that time has passed. So quickly. Where did it go? How did I not listen to all of those wise women before me? What was I bloody thinking?
I thought he'd stay young forever. I thought he'd be home longer. I sent all of those years trying to do the right thing and raise a mature loving intelligent caring human being who would contribute to a more positive society and make the world a better place by being in it. So you know what he went and did? He grew up to be that person I had hoped, that we, as parents, tried to guide and mentor. And then he flew the coop. Just like that. He started making big decisions about his life, on his own - what nerve - and planned out a career for himself that make us proud as hell. Damn that kid, I mean adult.
Hang on for dear life. Live in the present. Get your head out of your phone, lap top, tablet and or PC and be there for each other.
When you spend 18 years raising your child, caring, protecting, teaching that child and everyone tells you (as they are a lot smarter and wiser than you) that times goes by way too fast and enjoy the tantrums, the arguments, the potty training, the school years, the homework and the list goes on because you will blink, and it will all be over. Well, you know what, it does happen that way. In what seems like a blink of the eye, that time has passed. So quickly. Where did it go? How did I not listen to all of those wise women before me? What was I bloody thinking?
I thought he'd stay young forever. I thought he'd be home longer. I sent all of those years trying to do the right thing and raise a mature loving intelligent caring human being who would contribute to a more positive society and make the world a better place by being in it. So you know what he went and did? He grew up to be that person I had hoped, that we, as parents, tried to guide and mentor. And then he flew the coop. Just like that. He started making big decisions about his life, on his own - what nerve - and planned out a career for himself that make us proud as hell. Damn that kid, I mean adult.
Hang on for dear life. Live in the present. Get your head out of your phone, lap top, tablet and or PC and be there for each other.
Sunday, February 28, 2016
I think I moved from postpartum depression to empty nest syndrome without a break. Well, that's a lie. It has been almost 18 years. So yeah there was a break. It just went really really fast. Too fast, I know everyone says this. So why is it so surprising?
I am not the first nor the last. I assume it is like going through grief, or that glorious rite of passage that got me into this. I will just have to travel through it, not happy about it but it is what it is. I have gotten a lot of good advice from my friends. And of course my parents went through it. But I haven't gotten a lot of advice from only children parents so I am seeking advice from those with no "spare kids",
Having an extra kid right now to focus on, well, that would have been a good help. They could have helped me through this transition, God, why didn't I think of this sooner? Why didn't I think of this 16 years ago? Hmmmmm. Seems I made a big mistake in not having that second one. Oh well, I made my bed.
I guess I will have to take the mature route and woman up. I will take the high road. I will creep my kid on social media, constantly text him and visit him way too often. Too much? I have a few months to figure this out, Anyone up for rotating road trips and a care package packing night?
Sunday, February 7, 2016
I haven't been here in a while, I think that may be because happiness is abound or it may be that I am lazy. Let's go with the first one.
As I get older I realize telling the truth, while it has always been my thing, may be the thing that does me in. I agree that the truth can be shared in a less blunt, in your face, like a bag of bricks experience but I never was that gentle. So in my wiser older years I am going to try to be more gentle with others. At least with the ones who deserve it. Of course that is based on my personal declaration of who is kind and who is not and my brutal honesty will be required for that task. Always a loophole....
As I get older I realize telling the truth, while it has always been my thing, may be the thing that does me in. I agree that the truth can be shared in a less blunt, in your face, like a bag of bricks experience but I never was that gentle. So in my wiser older years I am going to try to be more gentle with others. At least with the ones who deserve it. Of course that is based on my personal declaration of who is kind and who is not and my brutal honesty will be required for that task. Always a loophole....
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